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Marriage can be really great but divorce can be a whole different ball game! Given the choice everyone would like to be married to their partner for life but that is not always possible. Things go wrong, the marriage breaks down, and there are irreconcilable differences which lead to divorce. If you are in this situation then here are a few tips to help you.

1. Lawyers are in business. They want to make money and the longer your divorce drags on the more money they make. It is in your best interests to find a lawyer who will try to get a settlement as quickly as possible. Ask around before hiring a lawyer and make sure you interview several before appointing one. If possible ask for references.

2. If you are expecting to receive private mail, hire a new post box. Get a new storage place for your financial records.

3. Speak to your bank and close all joint accounts. Cancel all joint credit cards and if possible ask your credit card company to issue you with new cards if they are in your own name. Your wife may have a note of the numbers.

4. Do not cut off all communication with your wife keep the lines open. You never know, one fine day she might just talk to you and settle the whole thing amicably, without any bad blood. Remember, if you stop communicating, things will go from worse to worst-ever.

5. Talk to your kids and let them know your divorce is not because of them and that you will never ever leave them alone. Don’t allow your kids to feel the pangs of separation, no matter how unavoidable it is.

6. The easiest thing to do is to get angry and destroy correspondence from wife. STOP! This can be your greatest ally in a court of law. Keep all correspondence no matter how trivial it may seem.

7. This one is a tough one! Don’t make negative comments about your wife to anyone. You never know who will tell a friend , who tells someone else and soon you get a lawyers letter telling you that you’ve been spreading rumors, and that my friend will cost you!.

8. Don’t be aggressive, remain calm. If your wife is an aggressive person, avoid getting into arguments with her.

9. You will need some emotional support, don’t be afraid to use friends and family to help you through this difficult time.

Divorces are not nice and they can get very nasty. Your wife will unfortunately be in the driving seat when it comes to a settlement. But with the right help and advice you can get what you want from the divorce not what she wants you to have. There are several really good guides available on the internet that will help ensure that you gee the settlement you want. Hunt them down!