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You have seen some signs to let you believe your partner is having an extramarital affair, but you don’t know any other information or clue other than your own belief.

You just want to find out – and if you just know how…

Before we go on there is one point to remember, the woman he may be cheating with has the role of the third party – and she is not necessarily better than you in any way. He is just using her as an ‘escape’ to the problem he is having in your marriage – HIS problem.

However, I must admit it is not up to anyone else to decide what you really need to know of this extramarital affair. So if this is for your peace of mind, go on and find out.

1. The Third Party

This is the first clue you want to find out. In fact, once you have a good idea on who the third party he is having his extramarital affair with, it is easier to guess on where and when the affair actually take place.

So how do you find out who she is?

Try to jot down a list of names – female names that he has mentioned in the past few weeks or recently. There won’t be many names. Also, since normally affair is unplanned in the beginning, he would have mentioned that name in conversation before.

The third party more often than not has things in common with the cheating spouse – enough to get him into infatuation.

Tips: It is good if you are calm and act ‘dumb’ – so that he doesn’t know you are suspecting anything. This will definitely make him make more mistakes such as saying her name even more times than he should – bring her into conversations even more.

2. What are they doing?

There must be things that they do – that you don’t normally do with your spouse – the things that they have in common. Of course, as it is an extramarital affair there would be some physical intimacy involved some other times too.

Example of the activities can be sport, skateboarding, skiing, the gym etc.

3. Where is it?

Knowing him for a while you should have a fair idea on what he enjoys doing – without you. With this in mind you can also guess where those activities take place e.g. fishing in the lake and so on. Don’t forget, the physical things would also happen somewhere and the safest place sometimes is your own house or area.

Another place is the workplace (Somewhere around his workplace).

4. When is it?

Some women would ask me now: “If he dares to do it in MY OWN place – I live with him, WHEN?” especially if you’re hardly on holidays.

Well, just as you know him, he also knows your schedule. If he normally is oblivious and doesn’t really care about what you do, now he would. He also has a good idea on which ones of your plan you would carry out.

For example, if you take a sick leave on Monday – and you have been whining that you don’t have enough sick leave left, he knows you will be away on Tuesday or Wednesday. Another example: If he knows you are attending your best friend’s birthday party he knows you cannot get out of it.