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Dating can be your best pal.

…OR your worst enemy.

Often, a guy can feel like a slave to his biological need to procreate.

Then there’s that common phrase, “He thinks with his… You know.”

Well it can be hard to NOT think that way if you aren’t physically satisfied.

But men are also goal oriented.

We make our actions to achieve things and influence the world in a positive way.

One of the biggest challenges I’ve personally faced is balancing the two – my urges and achieving my goals.

Dating can take a lot of time when you are single. Women will suck away at your time if you don’t know what you’re doing.

Before you know it, you are spending hours in the park, feeding the birds and cuddling… there’s nothing wrong with spending a quality time with your girlfriend, AS LONG AS YOU DON’T compromise YOUR GOALS IN LIFE.

Goals take time, and so do women.

In fact, it’s a woman’s NATURE to get the man’s time – it’s her way of getting you to invest in her. If she gets pregnant there’s a lesser chance of you leaving her (this comes from our caveman days, so to speak).

It is really tricky to manage your time with women. You see, most men want to give their time to women. By nature men are “givers.” They like to please women, protect them, and give them good feelings.

Men also have a urges that can completely take over your thoughts.

Both of these things can get in the way of you making the most time of your life.

I want you to take a second and ask yourself, “WHAT DO I REALLY WANT TO GIVE TO WOMEN?”

Now I’m willing to bet it wasn’t “money,” or “lots of my free time,” or “control over my life.”

It was probably something like “relaxation, excitement, feeling of safety, good feelings, sexual pleasure, make her smile or feel good about herself, etc.”

There are two ways that I think why men have problems with how they use their time with women.

First, they overcompensate with other stuff – like spending too much time or money on a woman because they think that the gifts they REALLY wanted to give aren’t that valuable.

Second, they think that when a woman spends her time with them, they are “getting” something valuable.

Society brainwashes guys into believing that women are a prize to attain, and that there’s some inherent value in a pretty face.

It’s a LIE!

The best thing is to see women for what they are, nothing more, nothing less. They are cute, sometimes fun, but ultimately not that important, AND THEY CAN’T COMPLETE YOUR LIFE!

Now getting out of this mental prison of feeling inferior to women is really hard.

Your mental habits are subtle and hard to notice because you’ve been doing them for years.